We have been married for > 42 years and you have hit the nail on the head. Marriage is never 50/50. Sometimes I am so busy doing what I think is so much (and feeling so righteous about it) and then look up and see what my husband is doing and taking care of, so I can do what I am doing. That is real love and we need to continue to take care of it. Our partnership is what needs to be 100%