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Sex in Your Senior Years
Yes, this means you.
Lets just put it out there. Sex is good for you. Either on your own or with someone you feel close to.
Remember that everybody’s idea of sex is somewhat different. You may not have had sexual relations for a long time. You may still be having sex regularly, whatever that means to you. Having the right amount of sex is a different idea for every one of us.
I came from a generation that as you got a little older you didn’t discuss sex or any concerns with it. Some people weren’t able to talk about it with their partner. It is a subject that can be very difficult to discuss with anyone, even your doctor. It doesn’t have to be.
I think the main reason why we have problems is that we hold such high expectations with ourselves and with others. Women can get a break if they are just not feeling it. We have all had times where we ‘faked it’ but men in the past did not have that luxury.
We seem to forget that our brain is our biggest sexual organ. Women, in particular, lose sight of this. We are tired, we are still thinking about issues at work that upset us, we hope that our two years old will sleep through the night, we still need to lose that baby weight, still no clean nightie, and you want to have sex now!
