A lot of us get to a point in our lives where we are not sure who we are or who we were meant to be. This is not something to take lightly. If we are at retirement or close to it then we don’t necessarily have all the time in the world.
The fact is, at no time do we know that we have all the time in the world. When we are young or younger, it seems there is no end. We feel getting to forty will take forever. And then we have passed forty.
It is said that the days go by quicker as we age. Reality says we have the same 24 hours in a day as we always did. Perhaps we just want to slow the time down as we become more aware of the time passing.
When we are young, we are so busy that cram whatever we need and want to do into that 24 hours. As we age, we no longer have so many needs and somehow our wants have slowed down. Perhaps this is because we have been accustomed to being told that it is no longer seemly to be off doing whatever we want.
We need to be more sedate and not the life of the party we’re told. Have you ever been to a party with a group of women in their 60s to their 70s? Just try and keep up! At this point, most of us Just Don’t Care! So the laughter and fun carry on.
I do not like conflict and won’t engage with people that seem to know what is best for us. But, don’t ask me if I agree or what I think if you don’t want to know, because I will tell you.
When I told people I was going to a half marathon a year ago, some asked which son was running in it. I told them that while my sons could run the half or even full marathons, I am the one that would be running the half marathon. After a little fancy footwork, they go on to say that they’ve heard running causes knee and hip problems as you age. My response: “Apparently not for me.”
Making lists is a good idea. It will allow you to express what you want and how you will attain it. You can have that list front and center where you see it each morning.
You will need a couple of lists to start.
- Where do you want to be in 5 or 10 years? If you don’t know where you want to be, you can’t know how to get there.
2. What does your perfect day look like? Yours, not anyone else’s.
3. What do we have to do to make the changes to get to where we want to go? This may take some time, so take the time. We don’t know how long we have in this world or how long we can make our own decisions, so get on with it.
I come from a family where most of the women live very long lives, well into their 90s. If I am to live that long (hopefully), then I want to determine how I am to live the rest of my life. I want to do as I please and do what makes me happy.
So we need to think about what will make us happy, productive people. You don’t want to finish your life on autopilot.
What must you do to make changes now, and what the heck are you waiting for?