Life in the Slow Lane
Aren’t you afraid of being bored they said?
Aren’t you afraid of being laughed at or worse, ignored?
But really, I had never worried what others said in the past.
I know me and jumping in with both feet was my standard.
Sure, I might be shaking inside but you would not have known.
The one thing I did worry about was, I would lose my identification.
You know, I was what I did at my work.
I was very proud of this, but little did I know,
I would now be free to build any other ID I chose.
So … I entered this new lane.
Here I am on the downward side of my seventh decade.
Bored … Nah not gonna happen.
But there are some things I hadn’t thought of.
Somehow it seems to me that I am not as visible as I always was.
Unfortunately, it was not due to weight loss.
At the bank, I am treated as if I’m slightly dimwitted.
Polite young tellers that have none of the life experiences I have,
Speak a little more loudly than needed, and ask.
Do you need your receipt for your folders?
I can’t resist saying, no I need it to check you entered it correctly.
Does this mean that I have become a crotchety old lady?
Am I going to wear purple now?
How will my time be used?
How am I going to make it? I don’t even knit.
Should I give up? Nah … not gonna happen.
I start by refusing to disappear.
When I am shuffled along because I am asking too many questions.
I don’t leave the line until I get answers.
Do I care if I hold up that line?
Nah … Not in this lane.
Some are bored with the time they now have, but not me.
If I start something at 9:30 at night and it takes 4 hours because I’m “retired’.
It doesn’t matter, as I can choose to sleep until I wake.
But wait! I can’t sleep in, I have no time.
I need to meet the girls for our morning walk and coffee.
They say I won’t have structured time any longer.
Really? I like getting 15% off manicures on a Monday.
First-rate movies for $8 Thursdays and senior rates at the Drug store Tuesday.
Eating out, we have preferred prices for seniors if we go early.
My life is structured just the way I like it.
I no longer discuss ailments except with the girls.
People might assume that’s all I talk of.
But then they would miss that I plan to go to Rome next year.
No, not on a tour bus.
I will run a night time half marathon following the lights of Rome.
When people ask what I do, I now say I am a murder mystery writer.
They look at me and say, why murder mysteries?
I smile and say it’s based on my background and what I know.
Do I elaborate and tell them I was a poison information specialist?
Nah … not gonna happen!
The above poem was about me. Some of the trials and discoveries I have been through since retiring. I really did have plans to run the Rome half marathon and was signed up but it was canceled at the last minute. I was so disappointed but decided I wouldn’t let all my hard work go to waste so I did the half marathon in Winnipeg, Manitoba. Not quite the same, but I have learned to adapt as I have aged. It wasn’t Rome for sure, but then Rome didn’t have one of my son and daughter in law’s living there cheering me on as I crossed the finish line.
If we are fortunate, we all will become seniors. But what do we do once we arrive? We seem to be living in a youth-oriented culture. I am not sure about you, but I don’t think I want to go back to my 20’s or my 30’s. I think of the need to impress and perform.
Who are we?
As we age, we learn more about ourselves. If we take a bit of time, we can learn who we want to be. Our personality is not permanent. Benjamin Hardy makes a great case for this in his book Personality isn’t Permanent. We seem to carry on without taking stock of our lives until we are retiring and all of a sudden how did we get here and now what? So come along with me on this journey to see all the joys that are out there if we want them.
Life is out there, just waiting for you. We will discuss lifestyles, health tips, and how to access help with our lives if we need it. We will find joy in life as a senior because it is out there.
Life consists of many seasons. The key to happiness in this life, I think, is to make the most of each season. You’re either looking at entering your senior years or already there so … Remember as C.S. Lewis said, “You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.”
So … what are you waiting for, let’s go.